Acknowledge that it isn’t all about you anymore, and die to that lie.
This is a hard one and one I am still figuring out. I like things to be all about me, I think if we are honest, we all like things to be all about ourselves.
In marriage we are saying it’s not all about me anymore. I have a spouse I need to consider.
This isn’t to say that you don’t matter, of course you do! But it’s no longer ALL about you. This is compounded if you and your spouse have children.
To recap:
- Acknowledge that it’s no longer just about you: Recognize that your spouse’s needs are just as important as yours, and be willing to compromise and make sacrifices for the sake of your relationship.
- Practice selflessness: Make a conscious effort to put your spouse’s needs before your own. This could be something as simple as asking them how their day was or doing something kind for them.
- Communicate openly: Communication is key in any relationship. Make sure to listen to your spouse’s concerns and express your own in a respectful manner. This will help you both to understand each other better and work towards a common goal.